Thanks for all of your comments. I was just reading them tonight. It really helps keep my spirits up, when things get a little ugly. When they weren't with us, I mostly thought of the good times we would have. I knew that this wouldn't be easy, I just didn't know that it would be so tuff. Their ours, and they were meant to be with us. I will take the good with the bad, and stop complaining. I'm so grateful that they are here, and they have really blessed all of our lives.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
They never said anything about the tuff times!
First off, let me say how much I love Artem and Sasha! I don't mean to be negative at all, but they can be so hard. School is very tedious to them. I just had an ESL meeting with all of their teachers today, and it wasn't pretty. What it all comes down to, is that they are getting lazy with the work they have to do in class. They say they don't understand, when they do, just to get out of doing it. I know, typical teenager. Well, after the meeting, when we got home, I put them to work on getting caught up. It was very overwhelming for all of us. We took away their computer hour, until they get caught up. (That is what these boys live for.) I asked them where they would rather be right now, here or Ukraine? They replied, here! I told them that from the beginning we have been giving them everything, love, family, home, clothes, food. I was going on, and on. I even have them watch me, when I pay cash for their tutor! I want them to appreciate not only the time and love we give them, but what it costs us to have them tutored. Everything cost money, and they need to learn how to earn money, so when the time comes, they can take care of their own families. They aren't thinking that far ahead, but they did say that they are just going to live with us forever! LOL! We have been trying so hard to help in the transition of coming to America. I know it's hard. I can't imagine what it is like for them, but come on, they have to want it too. I told them, it will be a lot of hard work. They can complain all they want, but it won't change the fact that they have to learn. I'm so frustrated right now, but it's okay. They are good kids, and their teachers really like them. They didn't like me up until an hour ago. Artem came into my office, with a big smile, and that just melted my heart. We played Wii, which in my opinion, is a great bonding tool. Bottom line; I think they want us to be tuff on them. It shows them how much we care about them. They are getting English, and are speaking it more everyday. They are happy, well adjusted kids.